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Embrace the Within

Focusing inward to create the abundant life God wants.

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  • Mar 24, 2022
  • 3 min read

"All beliefs are irrational and silly when you use logic to understand them."

Be the Change.

I am not winning any points this week on social media with patriots. Something about glorifying achievements made through war just never sits right with me. And it isn’t like I was not tempted to go down that path in my youth. Every high school boy is hounded by military recruiters to enlist after high school. They come to schools and peddle death. They are in the shopping malls to peddle death. Some of us even aspired to go to their elite academies of death. I know I did. I was enamored with joining the academy system. Thirteen years of government education and a lineage of enlistment does do that to a person. So, I get why this cycle is difficult to break.

BUT, I did break that cycle. I had my opportunity and I chose not to enlist. I also spent years as a government education employee believing by some ill-conceived notion that military enlistment might be the best solution for some folks to escape their situation. BUT, that is a fault in the system that we all need to fix. That children are choosing the opportunity to die in order to escape their situations is a major fault in the American system. That the only solution American society can offer is murder and violence as a solution only more deeply speaks to how much the system needs to go away and never return.

So, I get why I am not scoring any points with the patriots. They whole-heartedly buy into the system. The system that says if you work hard and follow the rules then you will make the American dream a reality. And frankly, that’s a bunch of bull shit to believe. That is the most preposterous thing to believe unless you are white. Then that makes perfect sense. No need to involve any more thought about government. Insert patriotic slogan, say your Magic Prayer, and salute your Sky Cloth. Thinking over.

BUT, if you aren’t white and the system is not set up for your success then you start to see some of the holes here. First, why is war still a thing? Second, why is the enlistment system targeting poor folks? Third, why are we bombing far away places to gain freedom? Fourth, how did freedoms get that far away from my home? Fifth, aren’t my freedoms more in jeopardy in Washington or any other state capital than in a desert or jungle across the sea? Sixth, why are schools promoting violence by allowing these folks in their doors? Seventh, would we let the mafia or drug cartels recruit in schools? And the list for me goes on and on . . . . Ad nauseam.

So, I get why I do not score points with patriots. They get so angry that I would deign to insinuate that enlistment is anything other than a dignified service, a benevolent spirit that bestows freedom upon the land the sun touches. Rather than it being an entitlement or welfare program that enlists the poor into fighting other poor people for the gain of private contractors that benefit off paying politicians overtly and covertly to advance their aims. How dare I insinuate that their child is off murdering brown people for corporate greed? How dare I ask that you not celebrate violence and murder? How dare I question the American dream? How dare I practice free speech that questions their narrative?

You see. Folks can melt and get angry despite the color of their snowflake. If your ideas don’t stand up to questioning and scrutiny, then are they really your ideas? Or did someone give those ideas to you? I don’t know. Believe what you like. Disagree or agree with me. Think what you think. BUT, at least think about why you believe what you believe? I have thought about it a lot. And I am pretty sure that a long time ago in a list the Most High gave a commandment not to murder. I tend to think that’s really a no brainer BUT the Almighty did have to spell it out to Israel and I think it still needs pointing out in America.

Have the day you want. I hope you find whatever you are looking for.

  • Mar 23, 2022
  • 3 min read

“Saying you mirror your actions on the way another person treats you is to give others power over your actions. Which is to say you are enslaved to the actions of others. Why not be free?”

Embrace the Within.

I work with adolescents and this year is almost as challenging as my first year working in middle school nearly a decade ago. The problem in working with children and adolescents and adults and humans in general is the management of impulse control. You feel some feeling and then immediately react. About a decade ago I spent a lot of time simply reacting. Whether it was online, at home, at work . . . I lacked impulse control because of my situation. I allowed my situation at that point to dictate my response to everything I encountered. And for nearly half a decade after that, I was still a mess. It takes a long time to fix problem behaviors if you are committed to truly working on those behaviors and making a lasting change. The fourteen days was the next catalyst to move me in the correct path.

Anywho, now that I can address my impulse control and my reactions to everything as an assault on me, I can start to understand that I control my situation and that my situation does not control me. I had it twisted for some time as well. I thought that the situation dictated how I was going to act. I thought the situation was responsible for my choices. I allowed the situation to get control. I allowed the situation to enslave me.

I recently took back my power. And it has not been easy to not go around and simply react to everything. I mean there is a lot of influence to see that reacting and overreacting is a normal way of behaving. Folks feel empowered by media in being triggered and acting emotionally. Grown folks storm buildings and trash cities because of the way they feel and media encourages their infantile behavior. Folks elect childish politicians and media encourages the infantile behavior of these leaders of the folks. There is a lot of power being given away by folks just so they can return to childish behavior. It’s not easy to take back your power when all you see reinforced in the masses is a return to being a child.

BUT, I want to be an adult. Sure, laundry is a bother. That’s why I have less clothing. I made a conscious decision to have less during the fourteen days. It’s my slow crawl to retirement planning. I want to have less and I need to decide what is important. Taking back your power allows you to make those decisions. I don’t need another tie. I need far fewer. I don’t need another pair of dress pants. I need far fewer. I don’t need another dress shirt. I need much fewer. I don’t need another pair of shoes. I need far fewer. What do I need more of? Patience. Love.

I need those in abundance much more than I need things. I need impulse control so I don’t run from the next manufactured tragedy to the next manufactured tragedy. I need impulse control to stop taking things folks say personally. What they say, what I say, is a reflection of the person much more than it is a reflection of what you are doing. Folks have a lot of battles they are facing, dude, I had a lot of battles I was facing, that folks were and are clueless about.

So, instead of reacting to everything like it is critically important, take some time today and think about what is truly and certainly important in your life? I hope you find that what is truly important to you is not a material possession. I hope you find that what is truly important to you is your self, your sanity, your health, your life . . . And that you take your power back.

Have the day you want. I hope you find whatever you’re looking for.

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