- Apr 15, 2022
- 3 min read
“Change is difficult when you keep telling yourself the same story. Change your story and change your life.”
Be the Change.
People love numbers BUT don’t really understand what they mean. We are fascinated with data and statistics that hold no true significance or importance to how our lives work. Folks focus on the numbers and the data as if the numbers and the data show, reveal, or establish change. We seek cause in correlation and look for change in that correlation.
Folks seek comfort in the numbers. Comfort does not allow us to change into what we should become. Comfort keeps us firmly rooted where we are now. Comfort does not allow for growth and abundance. Comfort keeps us living in our narrative when we should be writing a better story. Comfort lulls us into complacency and acceptance when we should be struggling and working to become better versions of ourselves.
I know that comfort was a big part of where I was for forty-five years. I had made it to a point where I wasn’t worried. Things were going to work out better for me than they did for my parents. I was better off financially and academically. I was at a point where I wasn’t afraid. I was sure in my own security and safety. BUT I wasn’t living abundantly. I wasn’t living joyfully. I was living in a structure that only appeared to be safe and secure. And I think a lot of us can identify with a false feeling of safety and security. We get that feeling of comfort that is balanced right on the edge of fear and doubt. Maybe things are not as great as they could be, however, things are not as bad as they are for others. So we take comfort in being better than, rather than being better. And I can definitely see that in where I was fourteen days ago and then my focus changed.
I wasn’t living in alignment. I was totally a mess. I thought that this system that I was so tragically flawed was going to look out for me. That despite how full of holes it all was, that somehow it was going to save and protect me because it always had. BUT the system doesn’t care about anything other than its own survival and that is a difficult lesson to internalize. I see people struggling with it to this day. Folks that have accepted that the system is benevolent and righteous and just and is going to protect them as long as they follow the rules. It is an easy enough covenant to make with yourself and the system.
BUT the system is really good at making you believe in it. It has years of perfecting its message and crafting its influence and bringing you into its fold. The system has systems for everyone to find their own niche in the system. It’s wonderfully simple in its complexity and equally as dangerous and troubling.
So, I think it is time I stopped telling myself the same old story. It is about time I took control of my narrative. It is quite well enough to be comfortable and complacent BUT my future lies in struggle and growth, my future lies in knowledge and wisdom, my future lies in abundance and joy. And I am not getting there on a sofa. I am not getting there in a car. I am not getting there on a plane. I am getting there by knowing myself, aligning with my beliefs, and walking as the Most High intended. God did not create either me or you to suck at living. There is an abundance, a growth, a joy that is out there beyond the systems that society has created. We just have to make those things possible. We have to allow ourselves to change in order for the narrative to get told.
Have the day you want. I hope you find whatever you’re looking for.